The Best Help for Your troubled Marriage

If there was one single factor that would most effectively help your troubled marriage, what would it be?

That is what I’m going to tell you in this article.

Many couples living through a troubled marriage are desperately searching for a ‘list of what to do’ to make their marriage work.

This is because they haven’t learnt that marriage is not a science where you can completely eliminate a marriage problem with a few sets of do’s and don’ts. A failing marriage requires responsibility.

I am not saying that there are no tricks, suggestions or secrets that could help a troubled marriage. I’m only saying that you need to understand the fact that every marriage problem has unique circumstances that leave only the parties involved the best discretion required to handle it.

There are quite a lot of rules of dos and don’t but they are all subject to this all-important virtue that weather the toughest storms in bad marriages.

Now what is this virtue I’m talking about?

It is PATIENCE.

Without patience a good fate in marriage can be turned to a bad one.

Without patience a challenge that was meant to create a greater bonding in marriage can lead to a painful divorce.

Without patience, you will react negatively to a misconception about your spouse’s action which could subsequently destroy the trust and affection in that relationship.

Every outstanding marriage life requires a process of time to build. No matter whom you are or how compactable you feel you are to your newly wedded spouse, there is so much uncertainty in the air as you begin the real journey of marriage.

The only factor that keeps both of you going is the virtue of patience. Without it, marriage problems that could have been resolved with good marriage communication become reasons for bitter arguments and strife.

You will also find the virtue of patience priceless in maintaining the confidentiality of your family matters. A lot of spouses have said unimaginable things about their partners… only to discover that they were wrong.

There’s no excuse for misconceptions in family and marriage matters especially when you didn’t take enough time to find out the truth.

The unfortunate thing is that it is not as easy to build a marriage reputation you once destroyed.

A troubled marriage requires patience.

Before you think of looking for external help for fixing your marriage problems, make sure you have attempted at least two of these suggestions:

• Review the troubled marriage with your Spouse

• Give some time- may be four to six weeks and allow time to heal or reduce the problem.

• Look inwards and search for a way you can change or adjust yourself and your expectations to reduce the impact of the relationship problem.

Most times, you will discover that a love marriage problem that seems so troubling at the moment can become an educative history tomorrow.

Most after marriage problems could be avoided if we ‘act’ with patience especially when we feel like ‘reacting’. Situations almost always take shape that is more ‘handle-able’ when given some time.

And of course, time requires a lot of patience.

Therefore take responsibility today and apply patience to help your marriage and family. That’s probably the best way to help your troubled marriage!