Is Marriage About time spent with each other?

Yes… let’s try to answer this question:

Is marriage about spending time with each other?

Trust me that one of the reasons you may experiencing a troubled marriage is that you and your spouse hardly spend enough time together, alone. This cannot be over-emphasized. Marriage is indeed about spending quality time with each other.

Look, couples erroneously think that they got married because they have already understood their spouse. So after they’re married they allow ‘work’ and other cares steal their time away from their spouse. The love , happiness and friendship you and your spouse shared with each other is only a fraction of the awesome measure that is available in marriage. As matter of fact, marriage is when you should enjoy and explore it more.

Marriage is indeed about spending quality time with each other to build love, happiness, friendship and intimacy. There are things you share together alone that you can’t find when you’re with your children, your other family members, or your friends. And when you don’t share those things alone, you can’t share them genuinely around other people either.

Those things are the warmth that you originally shared between each other, and the ‘spark’ in your very presence alone with each other, which before marriage, was so very tempting.

To help you spend more time together, one thing you should do is to go out together. Visit some of those places you used to go to before your marriage. It could be an eatery, a particular spot, or recreation centre. It is highly recommended that you go back to the exact love spots or hideouts you used to visit to get more of each other before you get married, if it is not so far away from home. But barring whatever distance, it is worth the effort. If works like magic!

Also, if there are games you used to enjoy playing together, prior to your marriage, include them in your weekly schedule. If there was none, become creative and find time to get cocky with your spouse. If you are the ‘serious’ type who look upon games and playfulness as ‘immature,’ please think again. These could be the key to you marital bliss.
In addition, find time to cook together even if it’s just once in a week. It could become something you both look forward to every week. And if you already have kids they could join in. One benefit of cooking together is that if gives you time to discuss issues that have to do with ‘Junior’s school bag,’ ‘Sandra’s hair,’ or a new cupboard for the bedroom! You may never discuss such things in front of a television set or anywhere else. You really come ‘home’ when you’re in the kitchen.

Another benefit of spending more time together is that it makes spouses to develop improved personal care, especially when he or she knows you’ll be watching keenly. The very idea of spending time together encourages both spouses to pay extra care to looking good and smelling fragrant.

In addition, spending time together provides a durable listening platform. Everybody wants to be listened to. Listening here involves a lot more then just hearing. When you’re listening to your spouse, attend to the information you receive from him or her, make some sense of it.

This will inevitably provide you with a basis for responding effectively to the information you just received. You may never imagine how far one good thing you say or do at that opportune time will go in making your marriage last forever.

No matter what you think you need to agree with this simple fact: Marriage is about spending time with each other