Friday, October 3, 2008

7 Powerful Ways to find a marriage counselor

If you search the web or your local area today, you will find a lot of marriage counselors out there. Unfortunately a handful of them are only out to waste your time and rip you of your money.

Therefore knowing how to find a good marriage counselor could save you disappointment, your time… and also your money.

To find the good marriage counselors… follow the suggestions below:

1. Find out how qualified the person is.

How long has he or she been counseling married couples. What sort of degrees or training did the person undergo? Is he or she accredited by regional or respectable institutions?

Face-to-face marriage counseling in most states is licensed. Make sure anyone you intend to work with is licensed in his or her state.

2. Find out if your potential marriage counselor is happily married too.

No matter how trained a swimming instructor is… he must be a good swimmer to make you one. Issues of marriage counseling are too sensitive to be left in the hands of someone who can’t understand the challenges of a marriage. Make sure your potential marriage counselor is HAPPILY married.

3. What are the religious beliefs of your potential marriage counselor?
You need to know. Do not consult an atheist marriage counselor when you are an ardent believer in God. You can only have successful marriage counseling with a marriage expert who has a common belief system with you.

4. Find out what the marriage counselor believe about marriage?

There are marriage counselors who tend to identify more reasons for divorce than keeping the marriage together. Those are not the ones you need.

You need optimistic marriage counselors who can make some good out of the worst marriages. You may want to consider a quick chat with any marriage counselor you intend to use. Look out for optimism in his or her remarks.

5. Can the person deal with depression, anxiety and sex problems?
Sometimes… root causes of marriage problems are not very obvious things. They may be less obvious like depression, anxiety, financial or sex problems. So if your marriage counselor can identify and handle such marriage issues… it will be of great help.

6. Is your potential marriage counselor referred to you by reputable medical or religious personnel?
If the marriage counselor was referred by your family doctor or pastor… you should feel safer to work with him or her.

7. Is your potential marriage counselor listed in a telephone book?
Most phonebooks contain listings for marriage counselors in your area. It is a way of finding credible marriage counselors. And the likelihood that you would pick a quack will be grossly reduced.

A good marriage counselor may not fulfill the seven requirements I listed above. But these requirements can prove to be very effective in helping you find a marriage counselor that will help your marriage. Don’t give up!

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