Generating happiness in your marriage

Attitude is all we need to live happy lives. I have seen too many unhappy people who avoided the responsibility of finding inner peace and happiness hoping to get happiness from their spouse. This is not the way to go for success in marriage.

Your husband or wife can't really make you happy if you haven't made a decision in yourself to be happy. Our thoughts are very vital if we must attract what we really desire. You desire love and affection from your spouse? Begin first by giving it... with the confidence that she'll respond appropriately.

If your spouse seems to be the 'trouble' type, you still stand a great chance in influencing his or her character by doing the same thing: show her/his love. Even a devil has those he tends to be nice and affectionate to. You may try the following suggestions to save your marriage.

1. HAVE FAITH IN THE FUTURE. Unless there is hope in a desired future you may not be motivated enough to make the sacrifice that will keep your marriage together.

2. MAINTAIN INTEGRITY. One major factor you can use to impact your spouse to be committed to saving your marriage is your integrity. What you say must be consistent with what you do. Be honest in the smallest things and very soon you'll see your spouse responding positively.

3. WORK ON BEING, NOT DOING. The key to a long-lasting relationship is being, not doing. A miser can take a day off to give. That doesn't change the fact that he's a miser. A politician can go running; that doesn't make him an athlete. In the same vein, you need to constantly and consistently love and bear with your spouse to make any visible impact.

4. BE PATIENCE. Time is a powerful agent of change that we can apply to solving terrible problem,s in marriage. A man who is terribly offended today can become understanding next week.

It's all about determination. You can still enjoy the kind of fun you enjoyed when your marriage was just a few weeks old. Take the bull by the horn and re-invent your marriage. You will get there.